Have you ever wanted to do everything, be everything, know everything, and been so overwhelmed that you just shut down and play video games all day instead?
Not going to lie, my time management SUCKS
Have you ever put off your goals, not because you don’t have any, but because you have too many? Too many professional goals, too many personal goals, too many family goals, too many improvement goals, and therefor you get nothing done, because you work 10% effort at each goal?
This is where I feel like I have been the last few years. I have no clear path, no set goals. I like so many things (personal training, fitness, competition, strength, functional fitness, nerdy stuff, video game stuff, books, cosplay, music, furniture refurbishing, comics, ) and I have all these great ideas on how to expand on them, and I want to create a brand, but I cant seem to narrow down and focus.
I am going to start with the easy thing: Fitness. I have been an athlete (gymnast/cheerleader) and am very functional. I train Marines and I can do pretty much everything they do, at least for 3 reps. I have competed in figure, and I did pretty well there. But now I am just a jack of all trades, neither really aesthetic, not athletic. I have no defined goals there either….I am not planning on defining goals here, but just outlining what I love. I want to do it all! I am on a journey to be both aesthetic and athletic. Stop the laziness and get my drive back! I have spent the last 2 years yo-yoing in limbo between goals.
But guess what? I am also full-time employed,, with an awesome job with the Marine Corps! I am a mother and my son and raising him right is pretty much top priority. (I’m sorry but we do not need another generation of lazy millennials!) I am a wife and my husband is my best friend, and hes not a huge gym guy! I love doing family things. I need balance.
I understand that competitions and bodybuilding isn’t about balance. I have nothing but respect for that industry, and I will probably go back one day! I love being on stage! However, bodybuilders are superheros, and they do not get balance. They give 110% to themselves and their sport, and their clients. I am just not able to give 100% of myself right now, when I have other big priorities consuming me. And to be honest, I don’t have the money. Trying to give my son and my family a great life with fun experiences (not toys/things, but experiences), and save for my future. I live in SoCal, cost of living is stupid, so I need to plan wisely.
So how am I going to do this? I have my Masters in Kinesiology, my CSCS, and I have trained many successful people, so its about time I train myself right!
What NOT to do:
* Obsess over every calorie/carb/fat/protein (have an idea, do not obsess)
* Feel endless guilt and torture if you skip a workout – sometimes the body needs rest
* Feel endless guilt and torture if you skip a workout to hang out with my family and be lazy – We like video games, and everything in moderation right? As long as its not a crazy habit, I will liberate myself from that guilt!
* Do endless long slow cardio for weight loss.
* Obsess over the scale – in fact, don’t even weigh yourself for a bit. LIBERATE!! (blog post about this coming soon)
* Cut all carbs
* Feel guilty if you have a bad meal – Lets face it, I love pizza and Five guys and beer – everything in moderation.
* Endless hip/glute extensions to “build a booty” and endless crunches for those “6-pack abs” – lets make some real goals soon, shall we
* Sign up for a competition as a way to justify your “transformation”
What I WILL do:
* Track progress with pics, body fat, and fitness assessments (power/speed/agility/endurance/1RM)
* Sign up for physical challenges that push me beyond my comfort zone, give me a date for goals, and promote teamwork and family. (I hate running, but love obstacles, so I am thinking a Tough Mudder or Spartan Race)
*Do something that makes you feel beautiful or worthy (not a competition, but maybe a photoshoot? Something that is YOUR style)
* Do high intensity cardio for health and performance improvement
* Do slower cardio for endurance and heart health
* Mix up your weight training – Olympic lifts, sports training, grip training, gymnastics, FUN.
* Mix up your fitness and involve family- Outdoor training, park, hiking, rock climbing, walking my dog more, stop driving places that I can walk/bike too.
* Focus more on natural nutrition, eat to nourish your body, build muscle, eat carbs to re-energize, fuel your workouts.
* Stop making excuses
* Stretch more
My ultimate outcome goal? Be a physical badass that looks good in a swimsuit year round and dresses up in costumes! 🙂
My professional goals/other personal goals will shortly follow, but first, I need to get back to blogging, rediscover myself, and get social again 😉
As a way to inaugurate this website, I will be hosting a FREE fitness challenge, where I will be posting MY progress, updates, and workouts. Feel free to follow along and lets all get our health back!